The Holy Longing

Grief, the Sorrowful Mother, and the Path Back to Love

Grief activates our deep wound of separation from Love.

The deeper the grief, the less connected we feel to Source, including the Divine Mother.

This is part of why it is so hard to love ourselves when we are in pain.

We do not see our pain as worthy or sacred.

Modern culture has lost its connection with the immense healing energy of divine grief.

Mystics used to say that if we wanted to be close to God, we should sit with someone who is grieving.

When we are grieving, a higher power is closer to us than we think.

Instead of leaning in, we have learned to run away from grief and suffering in an effort to transcend being in a body on this Earth.

If the Divine is somewhere out there, separate from us and our human experience, then it is nearly impossible to reach or feel this Love in the darkness of loss, crisis and change.

When we return to matter, to the Mother...we find a different story.

Something filled with Grace, love and nourishment in the dark.

In the depths of grief there is a profound longing.

A longing not just for what we lost, but for union with Love itself.

That longing, which is a primary note in the emotional experience of grief, is a very holy longing.

That longing is crying out for that which longs for us in return.

It’s a primal desire to return to union with what seems lost.

This makes the energy of the Sorrowful Mother all the more powerful.

Especially for those who tend to feel the suffering of others, and the world, around them.

Those whose hearts stretch with the grief of the systems weighing down around them.

The Sorrowful Mother weeps for all of her children, for the suffering of the earth and the confusion we all feel.

Her tears fall to the earth, to the mater, and bring healing to stories bearing the mark of profound pain and ancestral inheritance.

These are holy tears that heal the heart and wash away all that is not of love.

This is the power of Mother’s tears.

Of Mary’s tears.

Of our tears.

When Mary’s apparitions brought forth the teaching of her Seven Sorrows, it was for this reason.

In deep loss, crisis, change and the unknown, there is great respite and relief to remember that the Mother of God also struggled with the same kinds of difficulties that we do.

She contended with the unknown, with exile, betrayal...with surrendering control and not being able to do anything when witnessing someone she loves suffer.

Her sorrows opened her to something deeper that we are able to touch when we walk with her in her sorrows and start to see it through her eyes.

These sorrows, these swords that pierced her heart, opened her deeper into divine mysteries.

This is what resonates so deeply in our bones.

The sacrifices she made were of ego, self identity, judgement and attachments that didn’t serve a greater, higher destiny.

In the depths of these sorrows, like our own, arose compassion, faith, hope, understanding, forgiveness and Love.

Her descent was not into the underworld, but into the very heart of the divinely human experience.

Her sorrows are an invitation to open to Grace that sits right here if we are willing to look and let go just a little in order to invite the love into the hard places.

They open the place where we feel separate so that Love can make itself known.

If only we allow ourselves to walk with Her and let it all in.

For this journey of initiations through the sorrows of life leads to the rebirth of mater...of the Mother....of the Earth.

Of the light of the Sovereign Heart.

So, when all seems bleak, there is no separation but an invitation to remember.

To go deeper.

In the darkness, we are held.

SHE is the darkness.

In the darkness we are free.

If you feel her pulling at your heart, she may be calling you in…

You are invited to join me for my upcoming ritual masterclass this Saturday, April 4th...just before Ostara/Easter.

Rewilding Mary: The Seven Initiations of the Sovereign Heart

I will be facilitating this session from a centuries-old site of the Black Madonna in France...near a sacred, pre-Christian Druidic sanctuary where a vision of Mother Mary was prophesied long before the stones of the church were laid.

For details and registration, visit www.dreamingawake.org.